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What Do You Think About This?

“Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.” Proverbs 15:22

Last week Lauren and I went to purchase some new furniture for our living room.  We decided to bring some friends along with us to provide their opinion.  We were planning on purchasing a recliner and accent chair to go along with our sofa.   After selecting two chairs we asked our friends “What do you think about this?”  Our friends pointed out to us that the furniture looked great.  But with that selection we would have three pieces of furniture that were three different colors in our living room.  I’m glad they pointed that out to us.  Lauren and I liked the chairs.  But we weren’t thinking about the way they would affect the look of our living room after they were in there.  Our friends helped us see something that we were not seeing at the moment. 

This is an important lesson to be learned in every area of our lives.  It’s vital that we have the trusted advice and perspective of other people in our lives.  

As the leader of a business, church, or ministry you need to the perspective and input of trusted leaders around you.

As a man you need other godly husbands to give you insight.

As a woman you need godly women around you to help you be the woman God made you to be.

As a parent you need the input of other godly parents and godly people in your life as you raise your children.

As you try to steward your finances God’s way, seek the counsel of godly people that are striving for the same.

As a student you need the vision of godly people that have been where you are so that you can get where you need to be.

As individuals it’s easy to get tunnel vision.  With the perspective and direction of a trusted few you can make decisions that will reap lasting benefits.  

Don’t be afraid to ask godly people you trust and respect “What do you think about this?”



How to Become an “Insider” in One Easy Step

Of all the things we spend time, energy, and money working toward, insiderness is king. We want desperately to be “in the know” and part of the “in crowd” or the inner circle. We see clubs, groups, cliques, teams, parties, schools of thought, and families everywhere to which we don’t belong and wish we did.

This feeling – of being an outsider – is universal. The cool kids at school experience it: they look to some other group, maybe at another school, and think “I’d be happier if I were more like them.”

Your boss – the one whose job you want and think you could do better – experiences it, and feels the same way about their boss.

The beautiful people on the covers of Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, GQ, and Glamour all feel it, too. As long as there’s someone getting paid more, or occupying a bigger share of the spotlight, or huddled up talking in whispers just out of earshot, they’re just as convinced as you and me that they don’t have what it takes. That if they were prettier or smarter or knew had cooler friends that they’d be part of some inner-er inner circle than they’re in presently.

The truth is, we waste a lot of time trying to earn our way into these groups. It’s actually pretty easy, and it doesn’t require a secret handshake, plastic surgery, or nine-figure income. Continue reading

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